Judith Woods at the Telegraph opins that GEN (ret) David Petraeus was a no-good-cheating-horndog because his wife Holly “let herself go”.
OMG… She didn’t just say that. Of course it’s true, but you DON’T SAY THAT.
Here’s my take:
1. Yes, Holly is a frumpy little butterball. That does not make her undeserving of her husband’s love, respect, or fidelity. Nor is it the cause of Gen P being lecherous and running loose. If she had been a stunning bikini model half his age, there is a good chance he would still have found someone who added a little something extra that he was missing at home.
2. Those blogs that are defending Mrs P are calling her “accomplished”. Here is her bio. There is nothing “accomplished” there. She has spent her entire life being the wife of David Petraeus. If he had not been a general, no one would have ever heard of her. She would not have been an advocate for military families (all general’s wives do this). Nor would she have been appointed to a do-nothing job as a consumer protection commissioner. Being a wife and mother are her accomplishments. But Gen P’s Girlfriend also had two kids and graduated from West Point and did a ton of other stuff, ON HER OWN MERIT.
3. There is some insider gossip here in the Pentagon that Gen P has been a ladie’s man for a long time. That the power he enjoys causes young power-hungry women to throw themselves at him and he feels it is his chivalrous duty to catch them. No telling if it is true.
4. I am personally glad I will never have that sort of temptation thrown at me. Being neither handsome, rich, nor powerful, no women will be throwing themselves at me. If they did, I am pretty certain I would try a little to deflect them. But I am only human. If they were determined, I would fail. If I fail, it will have nothing whatsoever to do with my wife letting herself go and becoming a short, frumpy troll with delusions of personal accomplishment. It will be because for a short time, someone made me feel good about myself and I liked that. Gen P, likely had other reasons (Generals normally feel good about themselves all the time and have large staffs of people telling them constantly how wonderful they are). Maybe it was something as simple as the the desire to WIN in a game he hadn’t played since he was 20. Or maybe his little general was cold and she offered him a warm place to put it.